Nomadic Adventures

LR: Threesome Threepeat

2011-11-12T17:39:00.000-08:00

The week before Labor Day, I was on a long road trip with my LTR girl that involved a stop by Crater Lake in Oregon and a week at Burning Man. A friend of ours that was in a previous Threesome LR (Wild Weekend Threesome) was there and the 3 of us hooked up. This was just a simple case of the girl was staying with us one night in my camper van

On the way back home, I checked Facebook on my phone while getting gas and noticed that another girl from a previous LR (Tag Team Action) was visiting family in a town on our route home. I sent her a quick message asking if she would be up for dinner tonight, and then we hit the road again

We decided to take a several hour detour to check out some sights so couldn't make it for dinner, but as we get closer to town I text this girl and we arrange to meet up for drinks. Rather than drive another 3 hours to make it all the way back home, I book a hotel room near where this girl is staying so we have a place to take some showers and to crash later

We get to the hotel and check in and shower, and then run to pick up this girl at about 11 pm. There was a little bit of tension the first 10 minutes or so as the girls were getting to know each other, but I just told some stories about our road trip to keep the conversation flowing and make everybody comfortable. There is a bar just a few blocks from our hotel, so we stop there and get some late night happy hour and a couple drinks. The 3 of us just joke around for awhile. Once the girls have a drink in them they loosen up a little bit and now the 3 of us are doing some light kino and chatting and laughing. I suggest we go grab some wine in our room that we had left over, and we walk a few blocks back to the hotel and head up to our room

I pour some wine, but before anybody really drinks any I push the girls heads together and they start making out. This girl was on the rag so her pants stayed on, but she went down on my girl forever while I was getting a BJ. Then the two of them double teamed my junk… this chic was deep throating me hard core while my girl sucked on my balls. After a bit I pushed my girl on her back and started pounding her, and this other girl reaches her hand around and squeezes my balls. Once I bust a nut the three of us lay around for awhile, and then drive this chic back to where she was staying.

Just yesterday, this girl texts to say she will be in town, and so she stopped by last night. This time I pounded both of them

Over Halloween, I had another threesome I wrote up here

Add that all up, and in the past couple of months I've had 4 threesomes with 3 different girls. A Threesome Threepeat!

I've been working on threesomes for awhile now, and things are really starting to come together nicely. We will hang out again with all 3 of these girls between now and New Years, so its looking like I have myself a nice little threesome rotation going, with a couple other girls looking likely to join in

If this sounds like an appealing lifestyle, one great way to get started is to join the 30/30 club. The 30/30 Club starts by building a foundation of a solid identify, and wraps up with a focus on Threesomes. You can also look into a 1:1 with myself or any of the Brad P coaches

Happy Threesomes to all

Nomad

LR: Halloween Threesome

2011-11-01T19:44:00.000-07:00

I love Halloween. It's one time of the year when it is socially acceptable for women to dress and act slutty. What's not to like, really?

Plans this year were to head to a friends house party, then head out as a group to a club, then to an after party at another friends house.

This year I did a his/her matching costume with my LTR girl. I was a fireman, and she was a (slutty) firewoman. I had been busy with work as of late and didn't really put any thought into costumes until the day of the party, but was pleased with how things came together. Just like with day to day fashion, it is important to leverage sexy stereotypes, and what woman doesn't have a fantasy about a fireman

We arrived fashionably late to my friends house party with some sweet sake for shooting, and since I didn't know everybody I went around the party introducing myself to everybody and giving them shots. This was an extended social circle and everybody was really warm and inviting. Survey says the fireman costume was a hit. My girl met a pretty cute girl (Cute Blond) early in the night and they ended up sitting with each other and chatting while I socialized with everybody

A while later a bunch of us head off to the club. We car-pooled with a few other people. Outside of saying hello and a few seconds of light flirting when giving her a shot earlier, this was my first real talking opportunity with the cute blond. She was in super rapport seeking mode, so I just listened and encouraged her, saying that my girl seemed to really like her

We had some VIP tickets to a private area with some free drinks included from a promoter friend. There were some amazing costumes that people had clearly put a lot of love into. There was a guy that had a zipper on his face with his jaw zipped open and bloody skull hanging out that was my favorite. There was also a guy that dyed his skin blue and had a good Papa Smurf thing going, an 8 foot tall troll, the Pope, and various others. It was probably the best costume party I've been to

We all had a few drinks and hit the dance floor. My girl and I split off with the cute blond and the 3 of us danced together. Cute blond put on some lip balm and I said "she needs some too" and guided her lips over to my girls lips. They pressed lips and I suggested that it was a pretty weak kiss, so they kissed again with a little more passion. Cute blond asked if that was better, and I said "It was alright. I think you can do better" and then I looked away and just ignored the 2 of them for a bit. A bit later my girl went off to the bathroom, and cute blond went to the bar. I went and chatted with my friends for a bit, and then went up to the bar where cute blond was just getting her drink. I put my arm around her waist and looked at her eyes and her lips, and she lunged in for the make out. I pinched her nipples while we made out, and then broke away. She said, "Was that better?" "Much better. Good girl." Then I grabbed her hand and walked her back to the group where my girl was sitting after coming back from the bathroom.

At this point, this girl is heated up and ready to go. Cute blond kisses my girl and they start making out. They start to feel each other up and next thing you know they both have their tits out and are pinching each others nipples. I might have helped pop them out a bit ;) You really have to love Halloween costumes, it doesn't take much to get the titties out. My girl starts sucking on one of cute blonds nipples, and I start to suck on the other one. I reach down between her legs and start rubbing her va-jay-jay, and holy crap was she hot. It was like fire down there. Time to pounce, so I say "Let's get out of here, it’s a bit hot in here."

We get outside and hop in a taxi, and head to my place. For a second, cute blond tries to direct things, saying we should go back to the house party because her things are there, but I just lead and say yeah, totally, we can go there after awhile.

When we get to my place, my girl goes into the bedroom and sits down on the bed. I lead cute blond in there, and she sits down next to my girl and they start making out. I leave them alone for a minute while I take care of some things… turn on some music, grab some condoms, get a bottle of water, dim the lights… then I take off my girls clothes, and then cute blonds clothes, before stripping down to my underwear. I'm just letting these girls enjoy themselves, caressing each others bodies. Cute blond looks at me and asks "Are there any limits?" and I just tell her enjoy yourself and then start making out with her, before pulling away and then directing her focus back towards my girl.

At one point, my girl and I are again both sucking on this girls nipples, and I take cute girls hand and put it on the outside of my underwear. She immediately slips her hand inside and starts giving me a bit of a handy. My girl says something like "Ooh, she found something" and reaches over and starts pulling off my underwear, and now both of these girls are giving me a tag team BJ, with cute blond on her back licking my balls and my girl on her hands and knees bobbing up and down.

I take one of cute blonds hands and directed it over to my girls thighs, and then she starts fingering my girl. My girl looks up at me and makes a gesture towards cute blondes vagina. I put on a condom and slide myself inside her, and damn is this girl loud. I'm pretty sure the neighbors didn't sleep through that. My girl ends up sitting on this girls face while I'm fucking her to quiet her down a little bit

Once she cums, I need a bit of a rest so I lay down and throw off the condom, and the 2 girls start to go down on me again. After a few minutes, I'm ready to go again, so I flip my girl on her hands and knees and start on her doggy style while the cute blond is cupping my balls and rubbing my girls clit. I end up blowing my load inside her and then the 3 of us lounge around and cuddle for a bit. I called for a taxi but it was an hour+ wait because of all of the Halloween activities, so we all talk until the taxi arrives, and then I walk cute blond downstairs and send her on her way.

This was a pretty textbook threesome. There are just a few things that I want to highlight that helped things go smoothly:

First off, my girl was the focus the whole night. My attention was directed towards her, and never did I show more attention to the other girl. No need to create jealousy here, we are working as a team
When I took off their clothes, I did my girl first, and then the other girl. This made it more comfortable for the 2nd girl to be naked. I stayed in my underwear until the 2 girls were ready to direct their attention to me, i.e. when they needed some cock
I lead things forward, with the first kiss, then to the taxi, deflecting the girls preference to go back to the house party so she had her things, and then putting her hand on my junk. Girls generally lack aggression so you gotta do it yourself

It was a good night. Fun was had by all. And did I mention I love Halloween?

Expanding your sexual comfort zone

2011-05-31T12:21:00.000-07:00

I recently had an email exchange with a member of the 30/30 Club about my How to Get Your Girl to Do Crazy Shit post. If you haven't read that post, reading it now will provide context to everything below

Here is a snip from that email:

Hey Dude

I loved your post about one of the crazy things you did with your girl (getting her to take her panties off in bathroom then bondage stuff later).

I assume it's massive amounts of experience + good imagination but just wondering where you go for inspiration for such things?

I'm sure I can find stuff in looking up dirty stories online but I wouldn't have thought of trying something that extreme until you posted it. Much like not believing pickup until seeing a demo.

Hey man, I'm glad that post inspired you

I think the underlying question here is how do you expand your sexual comfort zone. Your assumptions about experience plus imagination providing inspiration are pretty spot on

I built up my level of sexual comfort over time. I remember the first time that I spanked a girl while doing her doggy style. It was really weak sauce, and it felt really uncomfortable, but now it is pretty standard for me. One of my introductions to dirty talk was with a girl that yelled out "Who is your little cum slut?!" while we were having sex and it shocked me so much that I literally stopped moving for about 10 seconds, and then I said in a cracking voice, "Uh.. you are?" Haha, that was really weak

I never really watched porn or read any stories, so most things came together as I tried to intentionally expand my comfort zone. My mental list at the time was that I wanted to do anal, tie a girl up, and have a threesome. The NIN concert from my blog post was my first time using bondage tape, but since tying a girl up was something I had thought about, I had looked up what was available on a sex toy website to get basic ideas

Walking through a well stocked sex toy shop would be a pretty good way to get a feel for what is out there, especially the more risque ones. I used to live in a gay neighborhood, and a lot of the shops there have full leather gear with whips and spanking paddles, nipple clamps, etc... stuff that I've never really gotten into, but you can see what others are into as far as fetishes and then see if it is something that appeals to you. Walking through the DVD section and just looking at pictures on the boxes of anything fetish related might bring up some ideas too.

You can also try "normal" sex in new places... bathrooms, in a park, cars, on the beach, anywhere really

From there its mostly imagination... anything is possible. Pick something you want to try and go for it. Take the things you like and expand on them, and then pick the next new thing you want to try. This combination of experience and willingness to try new things is really powerful. The girls you are with will love being with a confident experienced guy that keeps their sex lives interesting

How to Have Your Job Work For You

2011-05-24T16:45:00.000-07:00

My good friend Jake P recently wrote a blog post on Maximizing Time for Your Self Development, and it has inspired some good discussion on the 30/30 Club Forum.

This topic is near and dear to me. I've worked for the same Fortune 500 company for the past decade, during which I've gotten some big raises, bonuses, and promotions, all while:

- working on an expat package in Asia for a year and a half

- "working remotely" in LA for a year

- backpacking for 3 months as a break after a project was cancelled (paid)

- working remotely a couple times a year for 1 to 2 weeks (paid)

- working from home a day or two a week (like today)

- meeting with CEOs and CTOs of other major companies

- having a big pink beard and wearing whatever I want, including giving a major presentation to a partner company while wearing a T-shirt that says, "Sorry Girls, I only date models"

None of this was offered to me. Nobody said, Hey Nomad, would you like some more money and to work remotely? I asked for it. The first answer was always no. The 2nd and 3rd answers were also usually no.

I always asked the reasons behind the "No" and then came back with proposals that would address those reasons. In the end, for the most part I always get what I asked for. Sometimes I get more than I asked for.

Here are my secrets

Mindset

Have you watched the movie Fight Club? In one scene, Tyler Durden says:

"You're not your job. You're not how much money you have in the bank. You're not the car you drive. You're not the contents of your wallet. You're not your fucking khakis."

Hopefully nobody here owns khakis, so you have that going for you, but what about your job? Is it a key piece of your identity? Does your life revolve around the demands of your employer? Does the man define when you can take vacation, for how long, what time you have to be at your desk, how often you need to check your email, what kind of clothes you need to wear, and where you need to live?

This is pretty normal for most people. I consider it to be insane. There is so much more to life than working in a cubicle 50+ hours a week, so when people ask "What do you do?" you can say "I'm a lawyer" or "I work on Wall Street" or "I'm a corporate wage slave."

The key here is having the mindset that there is more to life than work. What that is will be something different for everybody. Maybe you want to get better at picking up girls, or more time to pursue a hobby. In the 30/30 Club we help people work on their identity so that your job isn't what defines you.

At one time, I was a corporate wage slave, but then one day I woke up and decided I wasn't happy with my life and I wanted to do more travel. Recognizing that I wanted more than a job was the beginning of something beautiful

Why do I Work?

Once someone decides they want to do something else in life besides sell their soul to some CEO making $100 million a year, they will often ask what else they can do for work? I'll take that one step further, "Why do I work?"

Most people say they need to work to make a living, but it doesn't take a lot of money to meet your basic needs of food/clothing/shelter. I know people that live on less than $500 a month for everything. In truth, most people work for a paycheck so they can buy stuff, like a TV, an iPhone, a car, vacations, etc... I've seen Will Smith credited with this quote: "Too many people spend money they haven’t earned, to buy things they don’t want, to impress people they don’t like." It's important to recognize that some things are worth spending money on. I continue to invest in guitar lessons, but don't own a TV or an Xbox. Developing a skill improves my life in the long term, hours spent in front of the boob tube do not

Buying less stuff enables you to save more. In my case, spending less also meant a better quality of life. At one point I had a mortgage for my house and a loan for my car, and my weekends involved working on one or the other. Now I rent an apartment and walk or take a bus. All of my non-working hours are my own, and I don't have any long term ties to one physical location.

Saving more also means that you have a cash cushion, so if you lose your job tomorrow you don't starve. In other words, you need your job less. The day I realized I didn't need my job was the day that my value to my employer went up tremendously. I could say no, I could disagree, I could skip the useless/busywork and focus on the things that had real value, and I could ask for more for myself. In a world full of yes men and people that are scared to lose their job, this has a ton of value. It also makes work much more enjoyable. I had moved to the point where my job was starting to work for me

Reduce your expenses, cut ties to one physical location, and save up a cash cushion of several months. Spending less makes this easier. If you are comfortable to live the freegan lifestyle, you can skip this step

Make Change

It takes some balls, but this is the point where you ask for stuff. In fact, this is the point where you ask for way more than you think you can get. This is what I did:

I had been traveling to Asia for work several times a year, and decided I really wanted to work their full time and learn some local culture and language. I asked around in my company about some people that had done this before and gained some good insight into company policies and suggestions on how to propose this to my boss. The general consensus was that this would be difficult, but people wanted me to make it happen and wished me luck

I suggested to my boss that I start to work in Asia full time, and he said No. Actually, he said no fucking way. Clearly this wasn't a good time, so I waited a week and asked again. This time he told me that I didn't have the skills to work by myself in Asia, so maybe I should take some additional classes or do some extra work after hours to develop those skills. (Yeah, right.) The next time I asked about it, my boss started to realize that I really meant I wanted to work in Asia, and that the interest was so strong that I would find a way even if it meant that I didn't work for him any longer. At this point, he had a decision to make. Fulfill my needs, or go through the long and arduous process of hiring somebody else and then getting them to the point where they were as productive as I am (maybe never). It can take months, during which time his workload would be heavier. In the end, he worked with his boss to make it happen

It was at this point that things got amusing. Because this is a Fortune 500 company with presence all over the world, they have specific policies about people working overseas, and a specific group that manages the whole process. My proposal had been to just continue to pay me and I'll work from Asia. Because of the corporate policies, they couldn't do that. Instead, they had to pay my rent in Asia, give me a raise as a "hardship allowance", give me extra spending money for taxis, and give me an additional extra pay to provide tax equalization. Clearly, my job was really starting to work for me :)

Never Work Again (unless you want to)

There are a ton of blogs on the internet that talk about how to invest your savings. Only one blog I know of tells you how to become financially independent by saving 75% of your income for 5 years. It has a ton of good information, particularly the 21 day makeover, but be wary of being a KJ. Work 5 years, save a lot of money, never work again. Sounds pretty good to me.

At this stage, work is purely optional. You can work because you enjoy it, or take on jobs to build a skill, or even to gain additional savings for a specific purpose. You have complete control over your time in every way.

If you are able to adopt the mindset that work is only a tool, save a large percentage of your income, and ask your employer to make changes that benefit both of you, then you have the option of never working again. 100% of your time can be dedicated to whatever you wish: self-development, travel, banging chics, etc…

That is the path I took. Realizing that I could retire at any point with just 5 years of focus, I would have done it faster, and I would have asked more of my employer sooner

Realize that your more valuable to your employer than what they are currently paying you. You can always get another job, but this is the only life you have. Live it to the fullest. Make change, now.

How to get your girl to do crazy shit

2011-03-31T23:59:00.000-07:00

I'm a fairly experimental guy when it comes to sex. I like to try new things and experiment, which often means that I help girls I am with expand their comfort zone. In the past couple of years I've helped girls do lots of firsts: their first anal experience, their first time having a guy cum on their face, their first threesome, their first public sex, their first time being tied up, their first time with sex ever, their first time getting sex on film... You get the idea

When people do something for the first time, there is usually some anxiety involved. This can come across as excitement or stress, depending on the situation. It is your job to lead the girl through the new experience with calm confidence, and make everything feel normal and natural and without judgment

I will usually seed an idea for something with a girl in advance. For example, say "I'm going to do to you later. A technique I've used countless times is while you are having sex, when she is so caught up in the act and her logical brain is off, I'll say something like "You would look so fucking hot right now eating a hot girls pussy!" and get her to role play that with you

Let me share a couple examples of things I've done in the past

This girl was having some scheduled time off of work, and she wanted to come to visit for 10 days. Now, I wasn't really sure I wanted her around for 10 days, but it would be great for her to spend a few days. For context, her plane ticket cost about $1000, so it wasn't really worth it to her just to come for a weekend. We had an interesting dialogue over text:

Her: I can be there for 10 days

Me: Hmmm, not sure if that will work with my schedule

Her: blah blah blah

Me: Tell you what, if you are 100% ready to be crazy and nasty then I'll make it work

Her, a couple hours later: What if I'm only 50% ready?

Me: Then don't come

Her, about 8 hours later: I just bought my plane ticket

I had free license for 10 days to do whatever I wanted with this girl. And I did. And she loved it. I have had multiple threesomes with this girl now

I had this girl that swore up and down she would never have sex on tape. I guess she watched too many Paris Hilton videos or something. So I told her we were going to make a home movie, and she is telling me no, absolutely not, I will never make a home porno. I tease her a bit for being paranoid that it will end up on youtube, and mention that I think home videos are hot, and then drop the subject. Later that night, we are having some hot sex and I'm really pounding her hard, then I stop. I walk over to my closet and grab a small video camera, and start having sex with her again while holding the camera in one hand. At first, she covers herself up a little bit and puts her hand in front of the camera, but then I hand her the camera and now she starts pointing it at me and what I'm doing to her, and now she is into it. It's a pretty good film

Last year I was spending a weekend with this girl down in Orange County because we were going to the NIN concert. They do an amazing live show. Earlier in the day as we are walking around the neighborhood we walk past a sex shop, and I walk in to check the place out. Have you ever seen people in sex shops acting unsure of themselves because they obviously feel out of place? That's definitely not me. I walked up to the guy/girl at the counter and asked them where their bondage tape is. This girl that was with me was a little confused, but I had told her earlier that I was going to tie her up so she just followed along.

I actually wasn't sure if the guy/girl at the counter was a guy or a girl. He/she was big, like 6 feet tall and 250 lbs, and had huge jugs. It could have been a very ugly girl or a former line backer gone bad, I'm still not sure. His/her voice sounded like they had smoked a couple thousand packs of cigarettes in their life. With bondage tape in hand I'm looking at this giant display wall of lube that they have. It was a very impressive display, with at least 100 different kinds of the stuff. The he/she comes over and says "Oh my god, are you guys into anal? If so, you totally have to check out this new lube." And he/she takes a sample bottle off the display and puts a small drop on my wrist and another small drop on my girls wrist. "Just rub that gently into your wrist, isn't that amazing?! It's so soft and velvety and smooth, not tacky at all. But don't use too much, when I first tried this I got so much on my hands that I couldn't open my bedroom door for over an hour!" Clearly, he/she was a lube connoisseur

I look at my girl and say, that does feel nice doesn't it. She nods in agreement. I pick up a bottle and add it to my collection of stuff to buy. "You totally want me to fuck you in the ass tonight, don't you." She nods in agreement.

We go to the NIN concert, and she is all dressed up like girls do when they go to NIN concerts. She has a black leather mini-skirt on, fish net stockings, an open back stringy top, knee high black boots, and pig tails. The concert was fantastic, and we are all amped up from the music and the dancing. As the concert is about to end, she has to use the restroom, and I tell her when she comes out of the bathroom to hand me her panties. But but but, I have fishnet stockings on, it will take forever to get them off, blah blah blah. I cut her off and say it again, when you come out of the bathroom, hand me your panties. So when she comes out of the bathroom she has this naughty look on her face and she presses her bunched up panties into my hand.

As we are walking back to the car, I have her hop on my back and give her a piggy back ride, and I start fingering her through the fishnets. She tried to stop me for a moment, saying no, people will see?! No they won't, it's all ok, they can't see anything. I'm sure everybody for a mile could see her vagina hanging out, but what does it matter. When we get to the car I pull my dick out and have her blow me while I drive the 15 minutes back to her place.

We were all heated up already when we arrived, so when we get inside she starts to take off her clothes, and I stop her. I grab the bondage tape and tie her hands together. Then I push her on the bed and tie her ankles together. Then I push her bunched up panties in her mouth and tape her mouth shut. And then I bend her over, pull down her fishnets, lube her up, and put my dick in her ass. She loved it

None of these girls had ever done any of these things before. What enabled them to try and enjoy all of these things? I was calm and comfortable, I lead the whole process along, and made it seem normal and natural and that there would be no negative judgment about it.

Once girls know that you are a sexually confident guy, they will start to bring ideas to the table. One girl I was seeing out of nowhere asks me, "do you think it is disrespectful when a guy cums on a girls face?" Now there is really only one answer to this question. "Actually I don't think any behavior is disrespectful by itself, it is more the intent behind it. If you want something to be respectful, it will be. I think it can be just a normal part of a healthy sex life." To which she replies, "I want you to cum on my face."

Sometimes you have to give a girl what she wants :)

Phone Sex

2011-03-30T23:59:00.000-07:00

I travel overseas a lot for my day job, which usually means that I wake up at 4 am in some hotel room in a random city in Asia with nothing to do. The gym isn't open yet, there are only hookers in the lobby, and nobody is in the office back home. So what do you do in this situation? That's right, phone sex.

Phone sex is generally near the bottom of the list of things to do, but when you basically have a few hours where you can't eat, can't go to the gym, can't work, and can't pick up any new chics, this is a pretty fun way to spend some time.

Phone sex can be a pretty powerful tool for several different categories of girls. I've done it with girls that I don't see regularly, to keep things fresh. I've done it with LTR girls that I can't see because I'm on a long business trip. And I've done it with girls I haven't even had a D2 with yet, which helped get at least 2 girls get on airplanes to come see me. Girls love sex, and they love it when they meet a guy that knows how to make them excited with just his voice

The principles of phone sex are very similar to dirty talk you can use in person. Think of the voice tone you would use in the bedroom when you are talking nasty with your girl, and you will get the right idea.

The interesting thing is, sex on the phone is almost exactly like it is in person, just without the physical contact. That's saying a lot, I know. You want to escalate her as you would in person, using your voice and your words, and her imagination fills in the rest. For women sex is more mental and emotional than physical, so this is all you really need. You want to mix in dirty talk, and describe what you are doing to her as if you were there in person. In a recent post on the 30/30 club, my friend LA Phil asked me to give some more step by step examples of what I do. I've shared some pieces of this in the past, such as in this LR where a skype video call turned into me and a buddy tag teaming a girl while another one masturbated on video skype for us, but this post should make what I do more clear

Here are a set of guidelines

Lead and be dominant
Tell, don't ask (You like that don't you, instead of Do you like that?)
Build sexual tension, as you would in person - Hyper has a great post on this
- increase the level of what you are doing to her (touching her skin, then kissing, then feeling her nipples, and so on)
- Do this nonlinearly - don't go straight from kissing to tits to pussy, mix it up so the next step isn't always obvious
Increase the intensity of the words you use, and the intensity of the physical interaction you are describing
- At first, be suggestive ("I caress your soft skin and feel you shudder with excitement") and slowly build up to more vulgar ("I ram my cock so deep in your fucking pussy!")
Tell her how excited her excitement makes you. Girls love it when there guy is turned on, and it turns them on even more
Make her verbalize (tell her to say things like "Fuck me Nomad!")
- This helps to make it more real for her and to tie the feelings to you
Be encouraging and supportive. Tell her you think it is hot and exciting when she touches herself for you

One of the questions I get asked, is how do you transition a normal conversation into phone sex. The answer is really simple, just like you would in person:
Don't transition at all, just start telling her what you would do if you were there...
Willfully misinterpret something she says as sexual…
Tell her you were thinking about her...

Whichever way things get started, I generally follow the same general flow:
Tell her that I like it when she touches herself for me
Tell her that I would like to feel her soft skin and kiss her neck
Tell her it gets me a little excited to think about it
Describe some buildup of what I would do to her for several minutes, periodically telling her that she loves it (kissing her skin, licking her nipples, rubbing her thighs..)
Suggest that she is wet and that this makes me even more excited. Often she will confirm that yes, she is wet
At this stage, she is clearly excited and enjoying herself and I would tell her that I love how wet she gets for me and that I want to taste her
If it wasn't obvious that she was touching herself already, I would tell her to do it for me
Build up to the point where I was inside her
Tell her to say "Fuck me Nomad" a few times until she just does it automatically. Mix it in as part of the conversation,
Start to describe how I can feel that her pussy wants to cum for me. This will help bring her to the point of orgasm, as she will want it to be true
When I feel she is close to orgasm, I will tell her to cum for me
Tell her that her being close to orgasm makes me so excited that I want to cum
After, tell her how hot I thought that was and that we shared something special

You can try to use the above as an outline. Try it out and let me know how it goes

For people that are more visual, try skype video sex :)

LR: Wild Weekend Threesome

2011-01-30T09:22:00.000-08:00

I had to go to the Bay Area for work, so I decided to spend the weekend in downtown SF and brought my LTR girl along. She has several friends there, so we ended up having dinner with one of them on Friday night. This led to some interesting drinks and then even more interesting late night activities, although there were several key moments where it could have been lost

On the Caltrain after dinner, it came up that there was a guy she the friend was really into, but he hadn't communicated with her in over a week. If you've ever listened to two girls talk about how to get a guy interested in them, then you know how this conversation was just sad. She had been engaging in a little facebook stalking, and a couple pings on IM with no response. At this point the girls also started saying things like "I'm tired" and the friend started talking about her headache and maybe she should go home and go to bed

At this point, with a bit higher energy than the girls I comment on her situation. I suggested that the best strategy was to just let it be known on facebook that she was having an awesome time whether he was around or not. Better yet, have friends post pictures and tag her, so the information gets to him second hand. She gets a little excited and my girl does too, and they start feeding off of each others energy. I talk about our hotel room on the 34th floor with an amazing view of the city, and how a picture of her there would be hot and would make people curious whose hotel room she was in, potentially creating a bit of jealousy. We could also do some drinks which would result in more photos. She immediately says she is going to run home and get on her party clothes and she'll meet us at our hotel. Stage 1 complete

I've been working with my girl on improving her seduction skills with girls. She has always been a bit bi-curious, but she is very submissive and unless somebody else leads all that will happen is conversation. I heard her earlier proudly telling her friend that I have a PhD in picking up chics. We talk briefly about making something happen with the friend and get ready to go out, when the friend arrives at our door. We take some photos up against the window, the girls tell each other how cute they look and touch each other a bit, and then we head out for drinks at the View Bar / Sky Bar on the 39th floor of the Marriott. This is only a block away from my hotel, and offers great views of the city.

The conversation momentarily goes back to the guy she is chasing, and we grab a couple photos, and then I steer the conversation in other directions. I know the friend has had experience with girls in the past, and I talk about how my girl is bi-curious but shy and I take the friends hand and put it on my girls thigh. She slides her hand up her dress and they both giggle, and then she pulls the hand away. A few minutes later we are standing up against the window, and even though they have each only had a half a drink they talk about how they are drunk. They aren't, but verbalizing it lets them have plausible deniability. I physically, but gently, pull the two of them together and push their faces towards each other, and they start making out. The look on the 2 guys faces at the table next to us was priceless

We head out a few minutes later and walk back to the hotel, and the friend starts saying things like "I have to get up early" and "I'm going to take a taxi home." I say just come up for 5 minutes and then you have to go, and grab her hand and lead her into the hotel. We get up to the room and the 2 girls start making some hot water for tea. I tell my girl to grab her friend and pull her onto the bed, and she does, and then they start making out. Especially if there is really solid attraction between the girls, it can be good to have the girl lead things forward, although I had to tell her to do so. I start undressing my girl and then she pulls off her friends shirt and they start kissing each others nipples. Things progress nicely from there. Afterwards, I escort the friend downstairs to get a taxi home. This night had a happy ending

Without some pretty solid social knowledge and taking the lead, this night could have easily turned into a dead end and conversation about some dude. Instead it ended up with a whole bunch of titties and vaginas. I also managed to get a few high quality photos, although I'm guessing she won't be posting too many of those on facebook ;)

Managing Relationships

2011-01-18T22:30:00.000-08:00

Managing Relationships

Once you get a few regular girls going and a rotation established, inevitably one of them is going to want to have "the talk." Often this is in the form of the question, "Where is this going?" Here are some strategies for managing this conversation

Attacks
At some time, a girl may pressure you to have a committed monogamous relationship with her. Think of this as an "attack", similar to an asthma attack. It is a temporary thing that you treat and it goes away, but comes back (Listen to Meatloaf's song Paradise by the Dashboard Lights for a great example of such an attack)

Always, these attacks have a source. Something is happening in their life, or someone is inspiring them... friends, family, coworkers. Just a simple question like "do you have a boyfriend" can set one off.

She wants to set a negotiation frame
I want this, will you give it or not?

Our goal is to make this less confrontational, and definitely not a negotiation (I was literally asked, "Do you want to fuck other girls or be with me?!") We want to talk about her emotions instead of talking about a deal

Girls in general don't have the self control to stick to the plan, and don't think well on their feet, so you can control the frame in the direction you want it to go. This is because they think emotionally

Validate her feelings
That is a valid question
I hear ya
OK, OK

Hey, how are you doing lately?
How are you feeling?
What's making you feel good?
What's making you feel bad?

Once the girl starts talking about her feelings, she will spill the source of the attack. Girls have little self control in this regard

If the source is a friend, discredit the friend and her methods
Sometimes friends will make a pact that they are going to get boyfriends together, or agree on a course of action that they will both follow:

So, let me get this straight, your friend is trying to get a guy into a monogamous relationship by forcing him, twisting his arm… what do you think that does emotionally to the guy? Makes him want a relationship or run the other direction?
Is that working?
Is it effective?
Is she drawing him closer?
Is your friend an expert on relationships?
Is she very successful in her relationships?

It doesn't sound like she is getting what she is looking for?
It sounds like this girl maybe doesn't know what she is talking about

When asked if their friend is successful in her relationships, girls will always throw friends under the bus and say no

This is really funny when people do this. They give each other ultimatums, and it just forces them apart

You can't force anybody to want something they don't. Have you ever had a guy try to force you to like him. How do you feel about that guy? You feel he is pretty pathetic. I never want to be that guy

She will go back to her sources, and she needs to feel positive so she can go back to her sources and win them over

Depersonalize the issue
Make it more of an intellectual discussion of the subject, as opposed to a direction negotiation. This could go on a long time

Many people have a hard time making a long distance relationship work
(De-personalize it - many people, not everybody, etc...)
Not everybody finds those to be satisfying
What's your opinion on long distance relationships?

Never let her get to the point where she says, this is what I don't like about you/me

Establish points of agreement
At this point, you may have established a few points of agreement. Emphasize those points you agree on (don't even discuss things don't agree on)

We agree:
* Its fun to experiment in life and date around
* These weekends we have are amazing because we look forward to them, and when something is rare it is valuable - it is more exciting this way
* Long distance relationships can be challenging

Connect with her emotionally
I value the weekends we have. I look forward to them
Now we have an emotional connection, which is what women are really after

Now jump right in and ask, when are we having another one of these
We need to get together and reconnect (women love to reconnect)

She will go back to her sources, and she needs to feel positive so she can go back to her sources and win them over

Make a decision about keeping her in the rotation
Another attach is inevitable, but now there is a plan to manage them
If the attacks are too strong or too frequent, you can decide how you want to handle it... You've come a long way in developing your game and have options

Further Evidence that Girls Love Scumbags

2010-04-18T15:29:00.001-07:00

Often these days, I do things without any planning and without thinking about it at all. I think this is pretty common when you have practiced something to the point where it is fully internalized. Frame control and leading interactions are two things I do these days without even thinking about it, even at work

I was reminded of this recently when I had a girl staying with me. We ate, slept, and fucked for a whole week, without doing much more. One afternoon I was just relaxing in my living room and she comes over and rests her head in my lap... so I pull out my cock and she starts going to work on it

We had had a lot of sex in the previous few days and I was pretty zoned out, and since I had my phone in my hand I just started replying to texts from other girls while this girl was blowing me. She looked up at my phone and asked in a shocked voice, "What are you doing?!?!"

In the past, I probably would have felt like I had been busted and started apologizing. It wasn't that I intended to text other girls, my mind just wandered off. But this time, I said something like "Don't stop, that feels so good" and just pushed her head back towards my cock. She didn't say anything else and just went back to work even harder than before.

She knew exactly what I was doing, because she called me out later that night saying "I can't believe you were texting other girls while I was blowing you" as she punched me on the arm. She did this as we were lying naked in bed and about to have sex, and she said it in a half joking / half amazed voice. I responded with something along the lines of "I can't believe how turned on you get when you see how much other girls want me." It totally turned her on and we had some crazy hot sex.

Further evidence that girls love scumbags

Brad P's Pickup Video

2010-04-13T21:28:00.000-07:00

Holy crap, this thing is over the top amazing!!! It is raw and unfiltered.
I have literally never seen anything like it. It will MELT YOUR FACE OFF

This video hasn't been shown to the public, and will be shown LIVE ONLY on 4 occassions before being DESTROYED. It will NOT be available on the web.

To see this incredible video, get yourself to one of these conferences:

New York City
Friday May 28th: Brad and Glenn will both be speaking, starting at 12 noon. http://www.globalpickupconference.com/

New York City
Saturday June 5th: Brad and Glenn start around 6pm.
http://www.datingconference2010.com/

West Coast locations
To Be Announced

LR: Tag Team Action

2010-04-13T03:16:00.000-07:00

I grew up in the days of professional wrestling, and my personal favorites were always the tag team matches... the matches where you have two wrestlers working together as a team to defeat their competition. Those matches always had the most action and drama, because the course of the match could change at any time and there were so many limbs and body parts flying around everywhere

Another blast from my past, the movie Swingers with Vince Vaughn and Jon Favreau is one of my personal favorites of all time. When I landed in Los Angeles this past Saturday morning to attend the Pickup Mansion Graduation Party at a house in the Hollywood Hills, I was immediately reminded of a quote from that movie:

Rob: I can't believe how cute the girls in this city are
Mike: I know. It's like the opposite of inbreeding. The hottest 1 percent from around the world migrate to this gene pool

Feeling inspired by the Swingers theme, my first night in town a bunch of the Pickup Mansion graduates (myself included) and LA Phil headed out to The Dresden room to see Marty & Elaine. It was an incredible weekend... the party was amazing with two live bands, I had some great cuisine LA style (out of a truck), and caught up with old friends. There was also wrestling. And tag team action

Early on Saturday, I head out to lunch and then for a few beers with three of my friends (all Pickup Mansion graduates) and a girl that one of the guys picked up awhile ago. She is in town for the weekend, and is immediately being openly flirtatious. The whole time we are out, we are all talking about sex and sharing sex stories and jokes. When we get back to the house, she locks herself in my buddies room and texts him saying that all of the sex talk has gotten her so turned on, and she was afraid of what she would do if she was alone with all of us guys and needed to cool down

Sounds like an invitation to me... so I discuss with my buddy, and we agree that we are going to try to tag team her. It's really important to communicate with your wing in the field, but even more important when it comes to sharing a girl because things can get out of hand if anybody feels that boundaries have been crossed. Case in point: the two of us had tried to escalate a girl of mine in the past, and she freaked out and got pissed off at me and would never talk to me again.

When this girl came out of the bedroom, I was in the living room in a skype video call with a hot asian chic I've been seeing for awhile. I travel to Asia regularly, and we hook up whenever I'm in town and occasionally have some skype video sex. Since I travel a lot, I've been experimenting with having girls masturbate on skype for me for awhile now. Maybe I'll write a post on that in the future...

This girl sees me chatting with the hot asian, and comes over to see what's going on. I had just gotten the hot asian girl naked and she was showing me her tits when this girl walked up, so I introduced them and said she wanted to see too. Pretty soon they are chatting with each other and showing each other their tits and talking about how they want to bite each others nipples. Now, there was no way this was going to happen by itself. I kept feeding this girl things to type to the hot asian and led the whole thing. For better or worse, it ended there because our taxi arrived and we all head off to the Dresden Room. I have to admit I was torn... lesbian sex show or Marty & Elaine... damn Hollywood for making me want to get the full Swingers experience!

The next afternoon after I wake up, I pull out my laptop and chat with the hot asian about what happened yesterday. It is early morning for her and she is still in bed. When I am visiting, I will usually wake her up with some oral sex and then have her go down on me before having sex. I talk with her about how I would like to wake her up like that, and then I call the other girl over and have her start chatting again. They immediately jump back to the chat from the day before, telling each other how cute they are.

I feed the girl things to type that I know will ellicit the desired response from the hot asian, and very quickly the hot asian suggests that this girl suck my cock while she watches. Essentially what I did is I planted the seed of the idea to the asian chic earlier, and then told the girl next to me that the asian wanted to see her suck my cock. Then when the asian chic gave this girl instructions, I did the only thing I could do at that point... I took off my pants and put my cock in front of her face. We are both laying on a giant lovesac with the laptop, with another guy in the room, and she hesitates, takes another look at the hot asian, and starts going to work. She was trying to put on a show and was doing a damn good job of it. While this is going on, I'm typing to the asian girl telling her what to do and I get her naked and touching herself for us to watch while this girl goes down on me. At this point, I call over to the other guy in the room and ask him to go fetch our buddy who this girl is here to see, who is still asleep. He comes down a few minutes later and joins in on the action. For a bit, we had this girl taking turns going down on us and then we fill this girl from both ends while the hot asian masturbates on the laptop screen. Just like the tag team matches on tv, there were limbs and body parts flying everywhere

The really beautiful thing is that after this was over, this girl says "Wow, that asian girl is really incredible, she made this whole thing happen and just told me to do things and I did it." When she said that, my buddies and I all gave each other a knowing nod of the head, because we all knew that I was the puppet master that really made it all happen

That night at the Pickup Mansion graduation party, I pulled Brad P aside and told him what had happened earlier that day. He gave me a big smile and said "You get an A!" haha

Blog Introductions

2010-03-29T20:16:00.000-07:00

These are some of my favorite pickup blogs. These guys are all really good, and also happen to be good friends of mine. They are all also coaches on the 30/30 Club, a system for learning game from guys that get laid and know what they are doing

LA Phil has coached along side Brad P more than anyone else. His blog is great for short guys, because LA Phil is one of the shortest Pickup Coaches in the world

Hyper has taught tons of workshops, and has quite a bit of game, even at the tender age of 23. I think being that young makes PU a bit harder. Any girls 24 and up are trying to rule you out right away. Hyper has a lot of coaching knowledge, and there's a pretty interesting video on his site. Hyper and I have had some good times in NYC

Scotty is basically Bradp's 'speed demon' guy. He seduces women in 15 minutes or less. But....Brad tells him to chill his game out for workshops so students can learn from it better. Scotty has balls of steel

Jake P's blog has cool pictures and videos on it, and includes a lot of his wild LRs. I just got back from a week in Canun for Spring Break with Jake, and I swear this guy is out of control amazing

Brad P is the man. I have seen this guy do crazy things... fingering a girl on the street 15 seconds after meeting her, pulling girls into bathrooms regularly... crazy. And he just happens to be the most amazing coach ever

How to Learn Pickup (and everything else)

2010-03-29T10:35:00.000-07:00

When developing any new skillset people will often ask "How long before I get good?" I find this popular Zen story to be a great reminder that I should enjoy the journey and appreciate each new lesson (I copied this from a random website)

BALANCING EFFORT AND PATIENCE
There is a story about a young man in Japan who wanted to be the greatest martial artist of the land. He thought that to reach this goal, he must study with the best instructor, who lived many miles away.

One day he left home to go study with this great Zen teacher. After travelling for several days, he arrived at the school and was given an audience with the teacher. "What do you wish to learn from me?" the master asked.
"I want you to teach me your art and help me become one of the best martial artists in the country," the young man replied. "How long must I study?"
"Ten years at least," the master answered.
The guy thought, ten years is a lot of time. I want to get his done sooner than that. I don't have that much time. Certainly if I try harder I can complete this task quicker. So he asked the master, "What if I studied twice as hard as everyone else? How long would it take then?"
"Then it would take twenty years," replied the master.
The guy thought, 'That's even longer! I don't want to spend twenty years learning something. I've got other things to do with my life. Certainly if I tried really hard I could learn it much quicker'.
So the student asked again, "What if I practised day and night with all my effort, then how long would it take?"
"Thirty years," was the master's response.
The young student became confused and wondered why the master kept telling him it would take longer.
He asked the master "How is it that each time I say I will work harder, you tell me that it will take longer?"
"The answer is simple. With one eye focused on your destination, there is only one eye left with which to find the way," the master said.

(Another way of saying this is, "With half your attention on your goal, you only have the other half to focus on the work." Any endeavor takes effort, but it also takes patience. If we have one without the other, we get off balance. with only effort, we try and try but get frustrated when we do not see results as fast as we would like. Or we get burned out and tired very quickly. With only patience and no effort, we never really put our full attention to a task. We never give it the commitment we need. This is as true with school work as it is with a meditation practice as it is with sports. in the story, the master knew that the student had enough effort; what he needed was to balance that effort with patience.)

Brad phrases this differently - It will take as long as it takes. There are no shortcuts

Brad P's 30/30 club is setup to provide a structure and focus over the course of a year to make the learning process as efficient as possible

Brad P's Pickup Mansion

2010-03-29T10:21:00.000-07:00

I spent a year living in Brad P's Pickup Mansion in Hollywood, California. I learned an amazing amount about pickup, relationships, and myself. As a result of the ongoing coaching and the total number of approaches I was doing, I actually got pretty good and now I'm doing what I can to help out others

The last workshop of the original mansion guys was crazy! As Brad described it:
"We had big titty chicks in the hot tub, 2 after-parties, multiple bathroom pulls, one guy got puked on by a chick....like EXPLOSION VOMIT....we hung out with rock stars, Nomad touched the biggest tits i ever seen in my life, i got some crazy videos, i almost got kicked out of 2 different clubs...and there was also lots of sex going on....and fingering. "

Here is the review of the Pickup Mansion that I posted on various forums. It is a great program:

9 months ago, I moved into Brad P's Pickup Mansion in Los Angeles. In that time, I've made some great advances in my game and done some things that a year ago would have been impossible for me:

•I went to a party at the Playboy Mansion, made out with several women, and then fingered one in the zoo and brought her home.
•I had sex with a fetish model on the leather chair in the piercing studio where she worked. Mid coitus, she remembered that we were being filmed by the security cameras… so I fucked her harder.
•I fucked a girl in the back seat of a friends car, while he was driving
•For the first time in my life, I had sex with 4 women in one week (and fingered a 5th.)
•And more…

A little over a year ago, a friend of mine showed me a book called the Adventures of Brad P (I think now called Diary of a Pickup Artist.) Once I started reading it, I couldn't put it down! There was a bit of skepticism ("Is this for real?!?! How can he fuck so many girls so quickly?!") My game pretty much sucked at the time (my first cold approach happened just a few months earlier.) I eventually signed up for a weekend workshop with Brad P and was convinced that the stories were true and learned that Brad P was an excellent teacher. At that same workshop, as we were discussing my future goals, Brad mentioned his ideas for the Pickup Mansion. The idea was that a few guys would live in Hollywood for a year, and focus on improving their game under the tutelage of Brad P and his coaches, Jake P, LA Phil, Glenn P, Bobby, Hyper, and Scotty Flamingo.

I immediately knew it was the right thing for me because I wanted to get really good as fast as possible. A year long structured program with the #1 Pickup Artist in the world sounded like it fit the bill, and I knew that if I could make it happen that I had to do it. It was a challenge to get here... First off, I had a job. In another city! But if you want something bad enough… so I plotted, and eventually spoke with my management team and made a proposal that I would work remotely for a year. When it became evident that I would probably just quit if the answer was no, they agreed (I still can't believe it!)

So I sold most of what I owned, packed the rest into my car, and then drove for 4 days to Los Angeles.
It was me and three other guys in the house, which has a pretty awesome location and is all pimped out. Every girl that has come back to the house has said something to the effect of, "Is this for real?" or "Am I dreaming?" or just simply, "Wow!" There is a fire pit, an amazing video/sound system, and a living room modeled after the lobby of a famous hotel. It is definitely impressive.

We started out that first weekend with a normal Brad P workshop, going out Friday and Saturday night with coaches and then spending Sunday analyzing the weekend. We also did some team building and trust building exercises to help us grow as house mates and friends. Over the course of the past 9 months, we have done these workshops every month, with regular check ups from Brad and other coaches. The training is tailored to each person, so we get individual attention and 1-on-1 time to work through any questions or sticking points we have.

One of the first nights in LA, Brad had a couple local promoters drive us around and show us where the best local clubs and bars were, and highlight which places were the best on any given night. We learned which clubs had the hardest door discretion, which ones were free and which ones had cover charges, and which type of people preferred each venue. Some clubs were great for goth girls, some for hot OC girls, and some for UCLA sports girls. Coming fresh to LA, it was awesome to be able to get my finger on the pulse of the city in so little time. Over the months, the promoters have helped us get into the newest hot venues and brought us to some great parties

Unlike a normal public workshop, month after month we are with the same guys, so we get to learn from not only the coaches, but the breakthroughs the other Pickup Mansion guys are making. And since the group of us are all focused on getting good with women, there is always somebody to go out with or to work through tactics or strategy. We've all become pretty good at winging. Also unlike normal public workshops, we are building on the previous month each time we get together with the coaches. Because we are all working together for a year, we are able to focus on bigger issues and concepts, such as night life social hierarchies, group control theory, calibration, reading girls buying temperature, deep seated inner game issues, working through logistics, relationship management, fashion, body language and voice tone, repertoire, and more. I've seen Brad work on phone game issues real time with one of the other mansion guys, and he gave me feedback when I pulled a girl back to a hotel room that he was sleeping in (perhaps a world's first coached escalation! Haha!)

Today, I am regularly telling friends and coworkers "I love my life!" I've made such incredible advances in my game, such that things I saw Brad P do a year ago are now fairly normal. I've pickup up girls from grocery stores, shopping malls, airports, airplanes, bars, and dance clubs. I used to keep track of how many girls I made out with in clubs, but I have lost count. I've made some of the best friends I've ever had. I've had more sex with hotter girls than at any other time in my life. My balls have grown orders of magnitude, my leadership skills have improved, my dominance has improved, and my presence and confidence with women is through the roof.

This has been the best training program I've ever experienced, and has had an amazing impact on my life. The continual coaching and constant feedback has had a tremendous impact on my game and my life. I can't recommend this program highly enough