How to get your girl to do crazy shit

I'm a fairly experimental guy when it comes to sex. I like to try new things and experiment, which often means that I help girls I am with expand their comfort zone. In the past couple of years I've helped girls do lots of firsts: their first anal experience, their first time having a guy cum on their face, their first threesome, their first public sex, their first time being tied up, their first time with sex ever, their first time getting sex on film... You get the idea

When people do something for the first time, there is usually some anxiety involved. This can come across as excitement or stress, depending on the situation. It is your job to lead the girl through the new experience with calm confidence, and make everything feel normal and natural and without judgment

I will usually seed an idea for something with a girl in advance. For example, say "I'm going to do to you later. A technique I've used countless times is while you are having sex, when she is so caught up in the act and her logical brain is off, I'll say something like "You would look so fucking hot right now eating a hot girls pussy!" and get her to role play that with you

Let me share a couple examples of things I've done in the past

This girl was having some scheduled time off of work, and she wanted to come to visit for 10 days. Now, I wasn't really sure I wanted her around for 10 days, but it would be great for her to spend a few days. For context, her plane ticket cost about $1000, so it wasn't really worth it to her just to come for a weekend. We had an interesting dialogue over text:

Her: I can be there for 10 days

Me: Hmmm, not sure if that will work with my schedule

Her: blah blah blah

Me: Tell you what, if you are 100% ready to be crazy and nasty then I'll make it work

Her, a couple hours later: What if I'm only 50% ready?

Me: Then don't come

Her, about 8 hours later: I just bought my plane ticket

I had free license for 10 days to do whatever I wanted with this girl. And I did. And she loved it. I have had multiple threesomes with this girl now

I had this girl that swore up and down she would never have sex on tape. I guess she watched too many Paris Hilton videos or something. So I told her we were going to make a home movie, and she is telling me no, absolutely not, I will never make a home porno. I tease her a bit for being paranoid that it will end up on youtube, and mention that I think home videos are hot, and then drop the subject. Later that night, we are having some hot sex and I'm really pounding her hard, then I stop. I walk over to my closet and grab a small video camera, and start having sex with her again while holding the camera in one hand. At first, she covers herself up a little bit and puts her hand in front of the camera, but then I hand her the camera and now she starts pointing it at me and what I'm doing to her, and now she is into it. It's a pretty good film

Last year I was spending a weekend with this girl down in Orange County because we were going to the NIN concert. They do an amazing live show. Earlier in the day as we are walking around the neighborhood we walk past a sex shop, and I walk in to check the place out. Have you ever seen people in sex shops acting unsure of themselves because they obviously feel out of place? That's definitely not me. I walked up to the guy/girl at the counter and asked them where their bondage tape is. This girl that was with me was a little confused, but I had told her earlier that I was going to tie her up so she just followed along.

I actually wasn't sure if the guy/girl at the counter was a guy or a girl. He/she was big, like 6 feet tall and 250 lbs, and had huge jugs. It could have been a very ugly girl or a former line backer gone bad, I'm still not sure. His/her voice sounded like they had smoked a couple thousand packs of cigarettes in their life. With bondage tape in hand I'm looking at this giant display wall of lube that they have. It was a very impressive display, with at least 100 different kinds of the stuff. The he/she comes over and says "Oh my god, are you guys into anal? If so, you totally have to check out this new lube." And he/she takes a sample bottle off the display and puts a small drop on my wrist and another small drop on my girls wrist. "Just rub that gently into your wrist, isn't that amazing?! It's so soft and velvety and smooth, not tacky at all. But don't use too much, when I first tried this I got so much on my hands that I couldn't open my bedroom door for over an hour!" Clearly, he/she was a lube connoisseur

I look at my girl and say, that does feel nice doesn't it. She nods in agreement. I pick up a bottle and add it to my collection of stuff to buy. "You totally want me to fuck you in the ass tonight, don't you." She nods in agreement.

We go to the NIN concert, and she is all dressed up like girls do when they go to NIN concerts. She has a black leather mini-skirt on, fish net stockings, an open back stringy top, knee high black boots, and pig tails. The concert was fantastic, and we are all amped up from the music and the dancing. As the concert is about to end, she has to use the restroom, and I tell her when she comes out of the bathroom to hand me her panties. But but but, I have fishnet stockings on, it will take forever to get them off, blah blah blah. I cut her off and say it again, when you come out of the bathroom, hand me your panties. So when she comes out of the bathroom she has this naughty look on her face and she presses her bunched up panties into my hand.

As we are walking back to the car, I have her hop on my back and give her a piggy back ride, and I start fingering her through the fishnets. She tried to stop me for a moment, saying no, people will see?! No they won't, it's all ok, they can't see anything. I'm sure everybody for a mile could see her vagina hanging out, but what does it matter. When we get to the car I pull my dick out and have her blow me while I drive the 15 minutes back to her place.

We were all heated up already when we arrived, so when we get inside she starts to take off her clothes, and I stop her. I grab the bondage tape and tie her hands together. Then I push her on the bed and tie her ankles together. Then I push her bunched up panties in her mouth and tape her mouth shut. And then I bend her over, pull down her fishnets, lube her up, and put my dick in her ass. She loved it

None of these girls had ever done any of these things before. What enabled them to try and enjoy all of these things? I was calm and comfortable, I lead the whole process along, and made it seem normal and natural and that there would be no negative judgment about it.

Once girls know that you are a sexually confident guy, they will start to bring ideas to the table. One girl I was seeing out of nowhere asks me, "do you think it is disrespectful when a guy cums on a girls face?" Now there is really only one answer to this question. "Actually I don't think any behavior is disrespectful by itself, it is more the intent behind it. If you want something to be respectful, it will be. I think it can be just a normal part of a healthy sex life." To which she replies, "I want you to cum on my face."

Sometimes you have to give a girl what she wants :)